tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1877199150999254647.post5045694211388860311..comments2024-03-11T11:00:55.829-07:00Comments on Den Nation: Home aloneDen nationhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04259526826141331097noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1877199150999254647.post-76514060888186677132013-09-18T10:08:56.863-07:002013-09-18T10:08:56.863-07:00Yes, I know exactly what you mean when you say you...Yes, I know exactly what you mean when you say you'd rather be with one person than a group. When I was younger my peers would often want to go to nightclubs. Just the thought of going to a nightclub made me break out in a nervous sweat. I've always just wanted to get to know a person one-on-one rather then in a group of people. It's just to hard otherwise. <br /><br />I initially thought you were very social as you travel a lot, but one thing I've learned since starting a blog is that there are more introverted bloggers than I thought. <br /><br />My husband is always up for meeting up with people. He is the opposite of me, he craves and needs to be in social settings. I want to skip invitations, but he tries to get me out all the time and sometimes it backfires. I've got to learn to say no more. Den nationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04259526826141331097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1877199150999254647.post-73523858084591839312013-09-18T10:03:41.340-07:002013-09-18T10:03:41.340-07:00I can't imagine living in Italy for 25 years. ...I can't imagine living in Italy for 25 years. I already feel so disconnected from Canada and I've only been gone 11 years. <br /><br />It is a combination of cultural differences and my personality that is holding me back. The thing is, though, I don't know anymore if there really is a place for me now. I think that I would feel like this anywhere I went - even if I went back to Canada. That's probably why I've been jumping around from country to country in Europe. Only now that I'm married I can't really keep on jumping and I have to face my feelings and challenges here in France. Is there anywhere I truly belong? Maybe in my Den? Den nationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04259526826141331097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1877199150999254647.post-8992499156566681362013-09-18T09:56:07.437-07:002013-09-18T09:56:07.437-07:00A lot of French people visit Canada, but they ofte...A lot of French people visit Canada, but they often only visit Québec so they don't really understand what Canada is all about.<br /><br />From what I've read on your blog, it looks like you had a difficult time at the beginning, but you seem well-adjusted now. I've never been to Nantes before, actually I don't really know the North-West very well. It seems that your husband is very connected to his hometown. From what I've seen on Zhu's blog, it seems like a really nice place to live. Maybe one day I'll finally make it up there...<br /><br />Sometimes I wish I had small children to help me make French friends, but I am childfree. I am glad that thanks to your daughter, your relationships with French people have been strengthened. I am more and more aware everyday of the importance of having children in France at my age. Den nationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04259526826141331097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1877199150999254647.post-15289701907773453292013-09-18T09:45:47.562-07:002013-09-18T09:45:47.562-07:00The chocolate made it final appearance last night....The chocolate made it final appearance last night. It will be sorely missed. The rose tea was excellent as well. The tea I drank was a "present" from a French friend. "Present" meaning it was a gift from his mother that he off-loaded onto me. I just don't understand what's wrong with rose-flavoured tea? Anyway, I may have danced around the Den alone singing to Girls Just Wanna Have Fun while drinking some rose tea and eating my Alps goodies. Or maybe not.Den nationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04259526826141331097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1877199150999254647.post-25062594343635233832013-09-18T09:40:35.558-07:002013-09-18T09:40:35.558-07:00Hi and thanks for reading my blog!
I know what y...Hi and thanks for reading my blog! <br /><br />I know what you mean about people not looking at you when they are speaking. Sometimes I feel like jumping up and down, waving my arms, and screaming, "Hello, I'm here, I exist too!" Often it feels like they are just talking to my husband even though I am sitting right there. I ask them questions to try and involve myself in the conversation, they answer politely, but they usually turn around and keep talking to my husband. They say "vous" so I know they are addressing me as well, but they just won't look at me (this is with friends).<br /><br />Luckily this has tapered off somewhat now that I speak French well. Just give it time, once you start arguing politics with them they will stop looking past you! haha<br /><br />Welcome to my den.Den nationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04259526826141331097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1877199150999254647.post-26436798636087770592013-09-18T09:32:53.513-07:002013-09-18T09:32:53.513-07:00Believe me when I say that even I learn new words ...Believe me when I say that even I learn new words everyday just from reading other blogs - even blogs written in English by non-native speakers! Once I have learned the new English word, I make sure that I learn the French translation. I'm still learning English, too!<br /><br />It's difficult to know when an evening is going to turn out good for me or not. Now I try and trust my intuition as I have a number of good and bad experiences under my belt. Thanks for the reassurance that I'm not alone.<br /><br />Den nationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04259526826141331097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1877199150999254647.post-1917930231900048262013-09-18T09:28:50.413-07:002013-09-18T09:28:50.413-07:00I'm glad you like my den and that you can conn...I'm glad you like my den and that you can connect to it virtually. I've just got to accept that this is who I am and just stop trying to be something I'm not. I am the happiest here, like you, so why try to fight it? A lot of people in this world would give anything to be able to sit in my peaceful den, seriously.<br /><br />I'm sure you already know, but Canadians (well, English native speaking ones) just love the British accent. As in, gaga love. British people grow up with American films so I wasn't treated as a novelty when I lived in the UK.<br /><br />I know exactly what most Canadians think Britain is like: double-decker buses, high tea, fancy accents and the British gentlemen. If they only knew the truth... that the 1950s Britain they are dreaming about no longer exists. (I still love the UK, though!)Den nationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04259526826141331097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1877199150999254647.post-33252173346446875512013-09-14T14:38:04.937-07:002013-09-14T14:38:04.937-07:00Great pics, I would actually love to just stay in ...Great pics, I would actually love to just stay in that den! I am not social either, but I don't care because there is nothing better to me than a cup of tea, dinner and corrie. Oh and the boy and the pickle. That is where I am sat right now writing this and I don't care about not going out or worrying about it overly because I am so happy here! I get too fed up of comments about being English to go out anyway! People always want to mimic my accent or ask me the same old questions about home, which are hilarious and interesting to other people but boring to me!Holly Hollyson @ Full of Beans and Sausageshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02924287399418536406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1877199150999254647.post-56561135212015261832013-09-13T11:29:13.388-07:002013-09-13T11:29:13.388-07:00I'm still learning new words while reading you...I'm still learning new words while reading your blog. Den is a "tanière" in French. So yeah, Den nation Blog has a new meaning now. lol<br /><br />Social gatherings in France make me awkward too. It is ok to not always tag along with your husband.Vadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08017730816577739949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1877199150999254647.post-67185497501003751632013-09-13T00:26:27.012-07:002013-09-13T00:26:27.012-07:00I can definitely relate to the "being sociall...I can definitely relate to the "being socially awkward and being ignored" part, especially being ignored. Even though I don't speak much French, I understand the majority of what people are saying, but they just look right past me, like I'm not there. It makes it difficult to try and be a part of the conversation. <br /><br />Btw, your den looks cozy :) Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01620279067584447890noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1877199150999254647.post-52072125825244176872013-09-12T11:53:16.274-07:002013-09-12T11:53:16.274-07:00UMM YES. This is so true for me, it's scary. I...UMM YES. This is so true for me, it's scary. I USED to tag along with Max to all his social outings when we lived in the north of France, but as the years went by, I found myself telling him to go out and I'd be happy to stay home. (Many of those times were also because we had a barking dog we couldn't leave home alone...)<br /><br />You know what? I think I'll go have some rose tea too and raise my teacup to you (and our multitude of similarities)!<br /><br />And I hope you like the chocolate! I need to go get some for myself :)Crystalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18136483568967161966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1877199150999254647.post-26434560753741100242013-09-12T09:50:54.020-07:002013-09-12T09:50:54.020-07:00It used to be like this to me but after some of my...It used to be like this to me but after some of my husband's friends went to Malaysia with us, we get along well and I consider them as my friends. The fact that they have seen my country helps as we have a shared experience and they understand me better.<br /><br />Now, some of us have young kids, it is nice to see our kids play together while we are enjoying our meals.Bee Eanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13860357505146690089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1877199150999254647.post-21776905090776565032013-09-11T22:26:13.917-07:002013-09-11T22:26:13.917-07:00This post really struck a note. After more than 25...This post really struck a note. After more than 25 years in Italy I have never felt so isolated - it is a very long story (too long for here) but what it comes down to is that as much as we can feel 'at home' in another country, sometimes the cultural differences are just too great - and the field of 'friendships' is one. I have been happy here but we are now seriously considering leaving (when my youngest finishes school in 3 yaears) and going back to my home country (UK) or my husband's (Canada) ..... we feel the need to be around people who 'get' us and who we 'get'. And somehow I think you would 'get' us.....:)Kathrynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02056021186333154227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1877199150999254647.post-194197430707659942013-09-11T18:33:52.443-07:002013-09-11T18:33:52.443-07:00Despite what people may think, I'm not very so...Despite what people may think, I'm not very social and I tend to skip invitations because... well, I'd rather be alone. I rarely get to be alone these days, but you get the idea. I like people but I also need time for myself and this is often a priority over social commitments. And I would rather hang out with one person than with a group!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com